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Anastasia Mayhew

Unlock a More Fulfilling Experience with Sex, Love, and Relationships

Are you seeking to grow and make changes in your intimate life? As a Certified Sexologist with a Master's degree in Human Sexuality Education, Anastasia Mayhew offers expert guidance to help you navigate your unique journey.
She has successfully helped couples work through mismatched libidos using talk therapy and emotional regulation tactics, and supported individuals in their sexual and gender identity exploration by introducing them to language and concepts that serve them. With a focus on pleasure-based sexual health, she specializes in relationships, dating, sexuality, gender, identity, kink, and fetish.
Anastasia approaches her work with a lens of cultural relativism and humility, creating a space where honesty and receptiveness are paramount. Take the first step toward the growth you desire by booking an online consultation today.

Location: USA (Philadelphia)

For USA: Certified Sexologist, Sexuality Educator, and Counselor

Worldwide: Sexuality Educator, and Counselor

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My Approach Is A Collaborative and Supportive Space

The most important component of a successful therapeutic relationship is honesty and a receptiveness to honesty among all parties. I am committed to creating a supportive environment built on this principle. My work utilizes a lens of cultural relativism and humility, combined with trauma-informed and harm-reduction approaches to ensure our sessions are effective and empowering for you.


Your journey will be guided by collaboration. We will work together to set big-picture goals while establishing incremental steps along the way. This practice is paramount for creating new, sustainable behaviors that align with your overarching vision. Whether we are exploring your experiences, creating new communication tools, or introducing emotional regulation tactics, my focus is on helping you understand yourself and providing you with the language and concepts that serve you best.

A Foundation for Meaningful Change

My practice is built on creating an effective and empowering experience for every client. I am dedicated to serving a diversity of folks from all communities by fostering a confidential space built on honesty and mutual respect. This approach allows for genuine growth and the establishment of new, sustainable behaviors in the areas of sex, love, and relationships.

Cultural Humility and Relativism: I approach all work using a lens of cultural relativism and humility. This ensures a non-judgmental and respectful environment where your unique background, identity, and experiences are central to our process.

Trauma-Informed & Harm Reduction Methods: Your well-being is the priority. By utilizing trauma-informed approaches and harm reduction strategies, we can ensure that our counseling experience is safe, supportive, and aligned with your personal comfort and goals.

Empowerment Through Understanding: My goal is to empower you with tools and knowledge. I help clients understand their experiences by introducing them to new language, communication tools, and concepts rooted in pleasure-based sexual health that will serve them long-term.

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A Foundation of Diverse Professional Experience

With five years of experience at the intersection of psychology and sexuality, my work is informed by a deep and varied professional background. I have gained practical expertise in diverse settings including healthcare, nonprofits, and at the state level. My experience is not just local; it includes years of international advisory work and cultural competency research conducted across Oceania, Asia, and the Pacific Islands. This journey has given me a comprehensive understanding of how to serve a wide range of communities effectively.

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A Space Where You Belong

You deserve counseling that sees and celebrates all of who you are. This is a dedicated and affirming space for the queer community, the disability community, and other marginalized voices seeking to thrive. Whether you come as an individual, a couple, or a polycule, your unique identity, relationship style, and experiences are honored here.

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What I Offer

I provide a range of counseling and consultation services tailored to support individuals, couples, and polycules. All sessions are conducted online, offering a confidential and accessible space for you to explore your goals. My services are designed for a diversity of clients with various identities, experiences, and relationship styles.

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Individual Sex/Love/Relationship Counseling

One-on-one sessions focused on your personal growth and challenges.

Couples or Polycule Counseling

Guidance for partners or groups seeking to improve communication and navigate relationship dynamics.

Sexuality Counseling

A supportive space for exploring sexual and gender identity.

Dating Consultations

Practical advice and support for navigating the world of dating and social dynamics.

Communication Counseling and Planning

Develop effective and sustainable communication tools and strategies.

Sexual Education

Inclusive, age-appropriate education tailored to your specific needs or questions.

Sexology Consultations

Specialized expertise in areas such as: Toys & Kink Brand and Advertising Guidance.

A Deeper, Holistic Approach

Blending the science of human behavior, sexuality, and public health to better serve you.

Your journey is complex, and you deserve a guide who understands the whole picture. My approach is uniquely informed by a diverse academic path—from exploring cultures with degrees in Anthropology and Sociology to navigating the systems that impact our lives with a Master’s in Public Administration. To bring this expertise to a personal level, I earned a specialized Master’s in Human Sexuality and became a Certified Sexologist. Now, as a doctoral candidate in Public Health, I integrate all these fields to offer you a truly comprehensive, informed, and effective counseling experience.

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Stories of Growth

While every client's journey is unique and held in the strictest confidence, these examples illustrate the collaborative work we can do together and the positive outcomes that are possible. My approach is always tailored to your specific needs and goals.

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For Couples & Partners

I have helped couples work through the common and often difficult challenge of mismatched libidos. Our process involves a combination of supportive talk therapy, the creation of practical communication tools, and the introduction of emotional regulation tactics. This approach helps foster mutual understanding and build a more fulfilling intimate connection.

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For Individuals

I have supported individuals through their personal journeys of sexual and gender identity exploration and realization. My role is to help you understand your own experiences while introducing you to language and concepts that may serve you. This guidance provides a framework to embrace your authentic self with greater clarity and confidence.

Our Journey Together

What to Expect

My process is designed to be a transparent and supportive partnership from our very first meeting. A successful therapeutic relationship is built on honesty and receptiveness, and I am committed to fostering a space where we can work collaboratively toward your goals.

Your First Session:

Our initial consultation is dedicated to building comfort and familiarizing you with the counseling process. We will use this time for some basic information and context gathering. This helps me understand the language, concepts, and interests you are comfortable with, ensuring that from the very beginning, our work together is tailored specifically to you.

Collaborative Goal Setting:
We will work together to define your big-picture goals while setting smaller, incremental goals throughout our counseling process. This practice is paramount for establishing new, sustainable behaviors that are aligned with your overarching vision. This collaborative approach ensures our work is always focused and moving in the direction you choose.

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Areas of Expertise

Understanding and improving the complexities of your connections with others.

Gaining confidence and clarity in the modern dating landscape.

Exploring all facets of your sexual self, desires, and experiences in a safe, affirming environment.

Support for your personal journey of self-discovery, exploration, and realization.

Providing non-judgmental and knowledgeable counseling and consultation.

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Single Session Consultation (1 Session)

Single Session Consultation (1 Session)

Languages English Sessions 1 Duration 50

The Single Session Consultation offers a focused, professional assessment for individuals seeking clarity or guidance around a specific concern. This session is designed to help identify core challenges, provide practical recommendations, and suggest clear next steps. It is especially well-suited for first-time clients or those considering professional support before committing to a longer-term program.Individual sessions are also ideal for exploring questions or curiosities related to kink, fetish, sexuality, or gender identity, as well as determining whether I am the right provider to support your ongoing care.

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The Fellow Bundle, 5 Sessions (50 min each - 20% discount)

The Fellow Bundle, 5 Sessions (50 min each - 20% discount)

Languages English Sessions 5 Duration 50

This five-session program offers structured, short-term support for individuals looking to address more complex concerns or engage in ongoing learning. Blending assessment, psychoeducation, behavioral strategies, and practical exercises, it helps clients gain deeper insight into their interests or challenges while working through a personalized education and counseling plan.

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The Master Package: Long-Term Support & Transformation 10 Sessions (50 min each - 20% discount)

The Master Package: Long-Term Support & Transformation 10 Sessions (50 min each - 20% discount)

Languages English Sessions 10 Duration 50

This ten-session program offers comprehensive, structured support for individuals working through complex concerns or seeking in-depth, ongoing education. Integrating assessment, psychoeducation, behavioral strategies, and practical exercises, the program supports clients in developing a deeper understanding of their interests and challenges while following a personalized education and counseling plan.It is especially well-suited for those who want to focus on one or more specific behaviors or who are seeking consistent, longer-term support in areas of interest, concern, or relationship development.

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