When it comes to passionate lovemaking, there’s a time for gentle intimacy and a time for more exhilarating experiences. Enter the “finisher” sex positions, designed to ignite passion and allow for deeper penetration. One standout position in this category is known as “The Bridge,” and let’s just say—it takes pleasure to a whole new level.
The Bridge position is all about that intense, mind-blowing penetration that leaves you craving more. To unveil the secrets of this electrifying position, we reached out to two experts in the field of sex and relationships: Therapist Benjamin J. Goldman, MHC-LP, and Kenneth Play, the renowned international sex educator and creator of the Sex Hacker Pro Series. Together, they shared valuable insights, tips, and even variations to help you master this sensational position.
So, if you’re ready to elevate your pleasure game and discover the secrets of The Bridge, keep reading as we uncover everything you need to know—from entry techniques to the upsides, downsides, and exciting variations that will leave you breathless. Get ready to embark on a journey of deeper connection and intense pleasure like never before.
How to do it?
To get into the Bridge position, it’s as simple as raising your hips, just like in a yoga bridge pose. The receptive partner assumes this enticing position, while the penetrating partner kneels between their legs, ready to embark on a journey of shared ecstasy.
What makes the Bridge truly special is the way both partners collaborate and support each other. As the insertive partner provides arm support, the receptive partner engages their core for stability. It’s a beautiful balance of weight and connection, where the two bodies become one in a passionate embrace.
Traditional Bridge: In the traditional Bridge position, one partner raises their hips, creating a bridge-like shape with their body. The other partner, whether insertive or receptive, kneels or stands between their legs for penetration. This position allows for deep penetration and a close connection between partners.
Reverse Bridge: In the Reverse Bridge position, the roles are reversed compared to the traditional version. The partner who was typically the receiver now raises their hips, while the other partner assumes the kneeling or standing position for penetration. This variation provides a fresh perspective and can add excitement and novelty to the experience.
Side-by-Side Bridge: The Side-by-Side Bridge is a variation where both partners lie on their sides facing each other. Each partner raises their hips to create a bridge shape, aligning their bodies for simultaneous oral or manual stimulation. This position allows for intimate eye contact and the opportunity to pleasure each other simultaneously.
Same-Sex Bridge: For same-sex couples, the Bridge position can be enjoyed in various ways. The partners can take turns assuming the bridge position or explore different variations based on their preferences and comfort. The key is to communicate, experiment, and find what works best for both partners.
Advantages and disadvantages of the Bridge position in all orientations:
Advantages:
- Deeper Pleasure: The Bridge position allows for deep penetration, leading to heightened sensations and intense pleasure for both partners. It creates an opportunity to explore new depths of pleasure and experience a more fulfilling connection.
- Physical Intimacy: The Bridge position fosters a strong physical and emotional bond between partners. The close proximity and body-to-body contact create a sense of intimacy and closeness that can enhance the overall sexual experience.
- Collaboration and Balance: In the Bridge position, both partners actively participate and support each other. It requires collaboration, as the weight and movement are balanced between partners. This shared effort can deepen the sense of connection and foster a feeling of teamwork and trust.
Disadvantages:
- Physical Demands: The Bridge position can be physically demanding, especially for the partner who raises their hips. It may require strength and flexibility, which could be challenging for some individuals. It’s important to listen to your body and communicate with your partner to ensure comfort and safety.
- Limited Eye Contact: Depending on the orientation and variation of the Bridge position, maintaining eye contact can be more challenging. While eye contact is a powerful way to enhance intimacy, some variations may limit the ability to gaze into each other’s eyes during the act.
- Learning Curve: Like any new sexual position, the Bridge may have a learning curve. It may take some practice and experimentation to find the right angles and movements that work best for both partners. Patience and communication are key to discovering what feels pleasurable for both of you.
To enhance the pleasure in the Bridge position, here are some tips:
1. Communication is Key: Talk openly with your partner about your desires, comfort levels, and any adjustments you may need during the position. Effective communication ensures that both partners feel heard and can make necessary adjustments to maximize pleasure.
2. Foreplay and Lubrication: Engage in plenty of foreplay to ensure both partners are fully aroused and ready for penetration. Additionally, using a water-based lubricant can greatly enhance comfort and reduce friction, leading to a more pleasurable experience.
3. Experiment with Angles and Depth: Explore different angles and depths of penetration to find what feels most pleasurable for both partners. Adjusting the angle of the hips or trying different thrusting movements can help discover the sweet spots that provide maximum arousal and satisfaction.
3. Use Hands for Extra Stimulation: While in the Bridge position, both partners can use their hands to stimulate erogenous zones such as the breasts, clitoris, or testicles. Incorporating manual stimulation can intensify pleasure and create a more holistic and satisfying sexual experience.
4. Focus on Sensual Connection: The Bridge position offers an opportunity for deep emotional and physical connection. Maintain eye contact, share intimate kisses, and engage in gentle caresses to heighten the overall sense of intimacy and pleasure.
5. Experiment with Variations: Don’t be afraid to try different variations of the Bridge position. Explore the traditional version, reverse Bridge, or side-by-side Bridge to find which variation brings the most pleasure and novelty to your sexual encounters.
6. Take Breaks and Pace Yourself: If the Bridge position requires physical exertion, it’s important to take breaks and pace yourself to avoid discomfort or fatigue. Listen to your body and communicate with your partner to ensure a comfortable and enjoyable experience.
7. Incorporating sex toys: Using sex toys into the Bridge position can further enhance pleasure and excitement. Here are some toy suggestions that partners can consider:
- Vibrating Cock Rings: A vibrating cock ring can be worn by the insertive partner to provide added stimulation for both partners. The vibrations can enhance clitoral or perineal stimulation, intensifying pleasure during penetration in the Bridge position.
- G-Spot or Prostate Toys: Depending on the partner’s anatomy, G-spot or prostate toys can be used to target and stimulate these highly sensitive areas. The Bridge position allows for easier access and manipulation of these toys, leading to heightened pleasure and potentially more intense orgasms.
- Couples’ Vibrators: Couples’ vibrators, such as wearable or remote-controlled vibrators, can be a fun addition to the Bridge position. These toys can provide simultaneous clitoral and/or penile stimulation, intensifying pleasure for both partners and adding a sense of shared excitement.
- Dildos or Strap-Ons: Using a dildo or strap-on during the Bridge position can offer a variety of sensations and allow for deeper penetration. Partners can select dildos or strap-ons of different sizes, shapes, and textures to explore their preferences and add a new dimension to their sexual experience.
- Anal Toys: For partners interested in anal play, anal toys such as butt plugs or anal beads can be incorporated into the Bridge position. These toys can stimulate the nerve-rich areas around the anus and add a heightened level of pleasure and excitement to the overall experience.
Remember, pleasure is subjective and can vary from person to person. The key is to communicate, explore, and prioritize each other’s satisfaction and comfort. With an open mind and a willingness to experiment, the Bridge position can become a thrilling and pleasurable addition to your sexual repertoire.