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Emanuele Cosimo Altomare

Italy: Sex Therapist & Neuroscience-Based Coach

World wide: Sex Counsellor

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A Scientific Approach to Better Intimacy and Performance

As a Psychologist with a PhD in Neuroscience, I offer a uniquely effective and evidence-based approach to sexual wellness and personal growth. My practice is built on a simple principle: understanding how your brain and body work is the key to unlocking lasting change. I provide a safe, competent, and non-judgmental space where we use practical, science-backed tools to address your challenges, whether you are looking to heal your intimate life or optimize your personal performance.

 

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For Individuals & Couples

Evidence-Based Sex Therapy

This is for individuals and couples dealing with sexual or relational issues like desire, anxiety, pain, or compulsive porn use. It provides a structured, scientific path to help you reconnect and rediscover pleasure.

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For High-Achievers

Neuroscience-Based Coaching

Renew your relationship through non-violent communication and conscious intimacy. Learn tantric practices that foster understanding, process emotions, and reignite the spark in your connection.

Sexuality is a living language. My role is to offer a safe, competent space to help you rediscover its words, sensations, and connection.

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A Path to Wholeness

My Approach Is

My therapeutic approach is built on a powerful synergy of deep scientific understanding and practical, real-world application. I don't believe in vague advice; I believe in giving you a clear roadmap based on what we know about the brain, behavior, and human connection. Below are the four core pillars that guide our work together, ensuring a process that is not only effective but also safe, respectful, and tailored specifically to you.

 

01 The 'Why': Neuroscience-Informed Clarity

My background as a neuroscientist is the foundation of our work. I help you understand why you feel the way you do by explaining the brain-body connection behind desire, anxiety, and habit formation. This knowledge is empowering; it demystifies your challenges and builds your confidence in the process, because you’re working with your biology, not against it.

02 The 'How': Evidence-Based & Actionable Tools

We use only the most effective, scientifically-backed methods to create change. With practical tools from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT/ACT) and structured intimacy exercises like Sensate Focus, our sessions are highly practical. You will leave with clear, graded tasks and simple ways to track your progress, ensuring you are always moving forward.

03 The 'Pace': Trauma-Informed Safety

Your safety is the absolute priority. My approach is trauma-informed, meaning we always move at a pace that feels right for you. We build a foundation of stability and trust before addressing sensitive issues, and every step is guided by your explicit consent. This ensures that therapy is a space of healing and empowerment, not re-traumatization.

04 The 'Who': A Radically Inclusive Space

This is a competent, non-judgmental, and affirming space for everyone. I have specific training and awareness in working with the LGBTQIA+ community, kink dynamics, and consensually non-monogamous (CNM) relationships. You will not have to educate your therapist; you can simply show up as you are and be understood.

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If you're ready for a competent and non-judgmental space to rebuild intimacy or optimize your performance, let’s design a clear, science-backed plan you can trust.

My Journey to This Work

How a deep curiosity for the brain led to a more effective and compassionate approach to therapy.

My path into therapy began with a scientific pursuit: earning a PhD in Neuroscience to understand the "why" behind our most personal challenges. I was driven to uncover the brain's role in desire, anxiety, and intimacy, seeking to ground therapeutic work in concrete, biological reality. This foundational knowledge allows me to see beyond the psychological story to the physiological processes that shape our lives, providing a clear and logical basis for our work.

Today, my practice is the synthesis of that journey. I bridge the gap between the research lab and the therapy room by combining the clarity of neuroscience with the practical, evidence-based tools of modern sex therapy. By explaining the neurological processes we are working to reshape, I demystify healing and empower you with knowledge. This transforms therapy from an abstract experience into a collaborative, logical, and effective science of personal change.

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Whether you're seeking to heal your intimate life or optimize your performance, my services provide a clear, science-backed path. I offer structured support for individuals, couples, and organizations.

 

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Sex Therapy

For Individual & Couples

This confidential space is for individuals and couples navigating sexual challenges. Using evidence-based methods like CBT and sensate focus, we'll create a structured plan to address issues like desire, anxiety, or pain, and rebuild your connection with intimacy and pleasure.

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Neuroscience-Based Coaching

For professionals

For professionals seeking a competitive edge, this service leverages the science of the brain. We'll design a measurable, data-driven plan to manage stress, sharpen focus, and build powerful habits, unlocking your full potential in your career and personal life.

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Training & Workshops

For Schools, Organizations & Professionals

I offer customized, evidence-based training on topics from modern sex education and consent to creating respectful and inclusive workplace cultures. These engaging sessions provide practical knowledge and skills to foster safer and more well-informed communities.

Your Evidence-Based Session Blueprint

My process is designed to be clear, structured, and effective. We move beyond aimless conversation to create a practical roadmap for change, grounded in neuroscience and proven therapeutic techniques. Every session has a purpose, ensuring you always feel informed, in control, and confident in our shared path toward your goals.

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Assessment & Strategy

Our first sessions are dedicated to creating a clear and comprehensive picture of your unique situation. Through a focused history and collaborative goal-setting, we'll identify the core challenges and define what success looks like for you. This creates a personalized, science-backed plan that will guide all of our subsequent work together.

 

Active Skill-Building

This is where we put the plan into action. You'll learn and practice evidence-based tools from Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), mindfulness, and structured intimacy exercises like Sensate Focus. Each technique is practical, graded to your comfort level, and explained through the lens of neuroscience, so you understand not just what to do, but why it works.

Progress & Lasting Change

Change requires consistency and feedback. We will regularly review your progress using simple, clear metrics to see what’s working and adjust our strategy as needed. This focus on accountability ensures that the new skills and insights you gain become integrated, sustainable habits for a more fulfilling life.

Beyond the Therapy Room

An Author & Educator

Neuroscience-Based Performance Coach

For professionals who operate in high-stakes environments, generic advice isn't enough. My performance coaching offers a distinct strategic advantage by going directly to the source: your brain. Leveraging my background as a neuroscientist, we move beyond simple "life hacks" to create a personalized, data-driven blueprint for how your mind works best. We'll implement targeted strategies to sharpen your focus, regulate stress responses, and build powerful, sustainable habits. This is a scientific approach to personal optimization, designed to unlock your full potential and give you a measurable edge in your career and life.

A Trusted Educator & Trainer

In a world filled with misinformation, I provide clear, evidence-based, and engaging education grounded in psychological science and neuroscience. For schools, I move beyond outdated models to deliver modern, age-appropriate training on crucial topics like consent, digital safety, and porn literacy, equipping young people with the tools for a healthy future. For organizations and professionals, I design and facilitate powerful workshops on creating respectful, inclusive cultures, preventing harassment, and mastering non-violent communication. My goal is to translate complex research into practical, actionable knowledge that fosters safer, more ethical, and more informed communities.

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Why This Approach Works

My Core Commitments

My practice is built on a foundation of two core commitments that ensure your journey is not only effective but also deeply respectful and safe. By integrating the objective clarity of a scientist with the dedicated care of a clinician, I provide a path to change that you can understand and trust.

 

1. Unwavering Scientific Rigor

You deserve an approach grounded in proven science, not guesswork. With a PhD in Neuroscience, I bring a deep understanding of the brain-body connection to our work. We use only the most effective, evidence-based methods like Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and structured intimacy exercises, ensuring every step of your plan is logical, practical, and designed for measurable results.

2. Absolute Safety and Inclusivity

Progress is impossible without safety. My practice is a confidential, non-judgmental, and trauma-informed space where your consent and comfort are the absolute priority. As a kink-aware and LGBTQIA+ affirming therapist, I am committed to providing competent care where you will be understood and respected, allowing you to show up as your authentic self without fear or the need for explanation.

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Your Path to Change Starts Here

Whether you are looking to heal your intimate life, overcome sexual challenges, or optimize your personal performance, a clear, science-backed, and non-judgmental path is available to you.

Take the first step today. Reach out to begin a confidential conversation and let’s design a personalized, evidence-based plan you can trust.

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